User blog comment:BraveHeart70/Uhhh..../@comment-2089817-20150518035755

What I find helps the most is that, you can't think so highly of the person you're trying to ask out. What I mean by this is that, the person you are trying to ask out is exactly that: a person. They are a human being, just like you, just like anybody else. You have every right to talk to them, every right to approach them and strike up a conversation with them, and every right to ask them out to something as innocent as a date. If they can't get that through their smug head, then you know what? You'd be better off for it, since if you actually ended up going out with a smug cunt like that, you'd just end up regretting it the entire time having to deal with such a mess of a human being.

Let's be honest here. For a guy to go out on a limb and ask a girl out they really like, only to be turned down by something as so simple and innocent as "sorry, let's just be friends"... Yeah, that's heartbreaking. It really is. It can be so fucking destructive to a person, especially to their self-esteem. Almost enough to persuade you to not even bother trying. Keep this in mind. What's the worst thing that can happen if you ask a girl out? She gets angry about it and calls you a pervert or something crude, is that what you're worried about the most? Then think about it, Brave. Do you REALLY want a date with a girl that afraid of her own skin that she perceives even an innocent gesture as an attempt to strip her down and go to town on her? Like seriously, do you really want to have to stomach a person like that, even for the duration of a date? And then think about what else can happen. She says, "Sorry, I have a boyfriend." Then just nod and smile, and that's it. Or if she says, "I'm sorry, I'm not interested." or whatever, then just nod and smile and say, "Ah okay, sorry for bugging you." Or simply change the subject too. Play it off like it doesn't matter much to you.

There is no secret method, because if you go by a plan, and things don't work out exactly as you thought out, you get anxious, stressed, worried, and then that causes you to get tongue-tied, and then you come off as a creepy weirdo about to choke. If you just step up to a girl and just ask her straight out, that's ALL you have to do! You don't gotta think about it at all! And whatever she says, who cares? You either end up with a date, or no different than you did five minutes ago, and therefore, where's the crisis situation? The sky ain't gonna fall. You'll always have another chance to repeat this with another girl, and there's millions of girls out there, so cut yourself some slack.

One piece of advice I can offer you though is that, don't start a conversation by asking her out. Warm up to it. Girls need at least ten seconds before they decide whether they care to pursue anything with you or not. Strike up a basic conversation. Take a moment to look at her from afar. And think up a topic to start with. It doesn't have to be anything profound. "It's been pretty humid lately.", "That test was really something, huh?", "Did you get the lecture in class today, it seemed tough." Something simple. An ice-breaker, if you will, but don't give it too much thought. Remember, she is just a person, just like anybody else, and therefore, you have to treat the initial contact like you would any other person.

Try to study her expressions during the conversation. If she gives you very short answers and doesn't seem to contribute much to the conversation, it's basically code for "uh, please leave me alone". Especially if she doesn't look you straight in the eye. Read the situation and change your questions and answers based on her expressions. If you can tell she doesn't seem interested, cut the conversation as short as possible. Say something like, "Sorry I gotta cut this short, hopefully we can talk some more some other time." Something like that. Don't give her too much to work with.

Hope this helps somewhat. In conclusion, don't give it too much thought. There are way more important things in life than a girlfriend; way way way more.