User blog comment:Achrones150/A Statement of Disappointment/@comment-2089817-20140808022655

That's right, guys. Big bad Sei-san has arrived to spoil the festivities. Bring forth the alcohol and women.

But in all seriousness. While I agree with you, Arch, that the attitude may have been questionable, the intent behind it was rather spot-on. It may be harsh, but you know, it will always be harsh when you tell somebody that they need to improve and try harder. They will ALWAYS take it as an insult, one way or another, and many of us have taken it personally when somebody has told us we aren't adequate enough at something and we need to work harder at some point in our lives; even if we handle it better now in our older years. None of y'all try to deny it either, because you know it to be true. Myself and the other veterans included. While we can mention it a bit kinder, we can't forget that people WILL get upset about stuff like that and we might as well not sugarcoat it. Otherwise this site will never continue to progress if we're always worried about stepping on each other's toes. We need to have an environment where we can freely talk to others without worrying about them taking it too personally. That is the goal I've always envisioned for BFF. If users that come here can't understand that, well, maybe we don't want them here to begin with. I don't know about you, but I'd rather sacrifice BFF becoming a popular wiki with a hundred users so it can instead remain a small wiki full of people willing to talk and communicate and work together without needing to hold back their thoughts or feelings.